She has been accused of eating snakes, rats and cats, and called “ling ling,” “ching chong” and “sushi.” In 2018, a nutritionist advised that I might be allergic to dogs and commented that it was “ironic considering what your people do to them”.
In 2019, my sister and I were walking along Brick Lane when a man charged at us and shouted “konichiwa” in our faces. In 2020, my sister endured the first of multiple instances of being abused in the street for her responsibility for the COVID-19 virus and, in 2021, my mother and a friend were walking in Bethnal Green when a man accused her of bringing the virus to the UK.
These experiences do not feel shocking to me; they are commonplace. And, while they are not acts of violence, they are violent in nature. These aggressions pave the way for crimes as horrific as that which took place in Atlanta on Tuesday.
Until now, racism towards Southeast Asian people has never felt polarising – it has never felt to me like a thing someone else is willing to stand-up and fight against, it has never been truly condemned by either right or left wingers. In 2005, Matt Lucas played “Ting Tong”, a Thai bride, in Little Britain, and later in Come Fly With Me, he and David Walliams played a pair of Japanese tourists, each character portrayed with grotesque accents and caricatured gestures. At school, people regularly called me names like “chinky”. They weren’t scared to. In fact, they probably thought it was a term of endearment, a sense of ownership over another's identity no doubt instilled into their subconscious, and an inability to rock the boat instilled in mine.
This mockery, appropriation and fetishisation of Southeast Asian culture seems universally accepted, it’s palatability enforced by assumptions about Southeast Asian submission. While those aggressions and stereotypes may seem harmless, the comfort that allows them to exist is easily weaponised – something that is now impossible to ignore. The recipe for this kind of hatred and dehumanisation is formulaic: we’ve long seen it at work in the systemic prejudice against black and brown people. Anti-Asian rhetoric may be pushed by out-and-out white supremacists, but it’s the silence and complicity of the masses that allow Southeast Asian people to be reduced to subservient virus carriers who are entirely disposable.
Over the past few months, anti-Asian racism has come into a new light, as thousands of anti-Asian hate crimes are reported and eight more innocent lives are taken, six of them Asian women. My grandmother, who emigrated with her young children from Singapore in 1963, spent the past year in the house without leaving once. Though the reason for her isolation was to protect herself from the virus, I couldn't help but feel some relief that she might avoid the insidious abuse and danger the world could have in store for her. Yet a year of total isolation is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I fear for the safety of my grandmother, my mother, my sister, my brother and my friends. So what now? There is learning and unlearning to do, for me and for you.